We’ve all heard, ad nauseam, that social media is about relationships. The phrase itself is very close to becoming a cliche. But cliches are cliches because they’re true. And you can’t develop or nurture any relationship without sharing something of yourself. You might have certain times during the day that you set aside for casual online conversations, and by casual I mean personal, not business. Mine is usually on Twitter, early in the wee hours of the morning – and I can always rely on at least one other person to be up and at ‘em that early in the morning…
The indefatigable and incomparable Julia Rosien. Today was no different. Julia and I were talking about the rest of the week, what was on our respective agendas, etc., when she shared that she was nervous about an upcoming event. My immediate response was: What? Julia..? Nervous…!? Then she said this – “I learned a long time ago that to grow in life you have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.” Boom. There it was.
It’s so simple. Yet so profound. In order to grow, you need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. We all have a very personal ‘line’ where comfort ends and that slightly sick feeling begins. Maybe for you, it’s a small thing – like going to a restaurant by yourself. Or it might be as big as launching an entirely new business venture. Maybe it’s meeting people for the first time. Learning something new. Public speaking. The issue isn’t what makes your guts churn, it’s the very fact that they’re churning. And churning is good.
Grab The Bull By The Horns
In moments of danger during a bullfight, an expert matador will grasp the bull by the horns in order to not get tossed. I can’t think of anything more uncomfortable than being in a bullfight, but that matador is comfortable enough – though most likely a tad anxious – to grab the bull by the horns in order to save his skin. That’s what I took away from Julia’s statement. Embrace those moments of anxiety before and during a big event or life change. Don’t let fear paralyze you – look at it as the evolutionary motivator that it is. Embrace it as it humbles you and allows you to see just a little more clearly. And most importantly, grow with it. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. You just might achieve something you never thought possible. And if not, if you fail, guess what – no matter what your stomach is saying – you won’t die from trying.
Note: Huge hat tip to Julia Rosien who motivates and inspires me everyday with her positive energy and sunny demeanor.
What about you? What makes your stomach churn? Have you grown recently by embracing an uncomfortable situation or event? Has your life changed dramatically, forcing you out of your comfort zone? Let’s chat!